We discuss typical situations where a family
of self-adjoint operators in a Hilbert space
exhibits the phenomenon of avoided eigenvalue crossings, i.e.,
at certain points eigenvalues come extremely close to one another but
do not cross (while, at the same time, the eigenprojections
do cross). All our examples come with a comparison family
that is close to
and which decouples in a suitable sense.
We are thus led to conjecture that avoided crossings are related to
weak coupling or symmetry breaking. We also discuss the shift of
eigenvalues under weak coupling and some implications for the numerical computation
of eigenvalues.